Not our accomplishment when they are doing amazing, not our fault when they walk a road that grieves our hearts. We are just vessels, not the potter. They are so individual. Good stuff, Jennifer! So glad I took the time to read. Blessings to you and yours.
Mom of 9 here. This is what it all boils down to. I had a friend had a PhD in neuroscience confess to me that she used to think she was a superior mom her words! Then God humbled her with 2, who spoke very late. From one Jennifer blogger to another…. Thank you for blowing the lid off this parenting issue for those of us who are recovering perfectionists… Pharisees, etc… this post was so well put and relatable. Thanks for reading. My children are 29 and I am going to print this article for them both.
I have touched on some tiny element of your points in past conversations with them but you have blown my heart open to see my own sin and I can ask forgiveness in more specific ways. He is so good. I had never looked at it this way. Thank you so much for enlightening me at a time when I and, therefore, my children really needed this specific bit of truth.
The Holy Spirit worked through you to teach me my next step in becoming a true disciple of Christ. Just watch me cross stitch that quote for the next baby shower I attend! After spending a good portion of this evening frustrated with my toddler for a lot of the idolatrous reasons you mentioned, this was exactly what I needed to hear at this moment! And since my husband got sucked into my frustration vortex it was good to remember that so much of what you said is applicable to marriage as well! Thank you so much for writing this! This article is absolutely what I need to hear and mull over and digest right now.
But deep down I do want Jesus more than anything, and for my children to want him too. But my mind and all the various outworkings are still so clouded, no… crowded by my own idols. I spend a lot of thoughts on betraying myself for not achieving the myriad goals I set for myself. Just a little ahead of me… and your article has been greatly used by the Lord in my heart. From a recently diagnosed perfectionist who desperately wants to recover, and for her children to be free not crushed by her own crazy controlling nature!
You really pegged me with that bed-time netflix binge on the couch as the source of my nighttime sleep struggles.
- Unspoken Sins.
- She Treads Softly: December .
- THE SUBJECTION OF THE SON!
- Allergic to Bull$#&! (Keep it to yourself Book 1).
- Pope Francis: “We all have our hidden idols”.
So glad my friend shared it. Lots to chew on here. Completely convicted! God blessed us with easy children. We explained this to them when we decided on this rule. They learned it quickly with a few time outs again Gods blessing oh and when I talk about respect it went both ways. We listened to our kids and were fair. Now they have children of their own and they are figuring out things for themselves.
Raising children is the hardest job on the planet. Keep God by your side every step of the way. Idols…yeah thise things we never thought were idols… The timing of reading this blog is amazing. I am having a Ladies Bible study tomorrow night on a book called The Gospel Treason by Brad Bigney and he touches on the same thing…not only with parenting but marriage too. I never knew so many things could be an idol!
I feel like I am being prepared for open heart surgery! This book will radically change the way if you desire a more in depth study…there is an on line study guide too.. I am mom to 6, and a 7th in heaven. They are 7,8,9,10,11,and Lol But this hit home. When they are arguing and fighting, I disrupts my perfect, calm house. But I have 6 kids. Lol Gods sense of humor shines bright! Thank you for these words.
God does that often to me when I need a reset, and He certainly used the words you wrote to do it again this morning. Thank you for being a willing vessel to communicate what God needs us to hear. I was convicted more than once while reading this article, and while I have never struggled with pride when my children are obedient I am too thankful when that happens , I have fallen into the comparison game with other parents and children. I also admit to desiring my quiet time or time to focus on work and getting upset at my children when they interrupt that with their arguments. Going to print out this article for keeps and as a reminder when we get off track.
In shock. Feel like you were writing for me. Tears coming when I can read this again alone. Thank you!!! My daughter is almost 12 and has a compassionate, loving soul. Nor would she forget that I, her own mother, chose to make her feel terrible about herself. So show her by treating her better.
How OLD are they? I feel bad for those kids. You said you want to touch their hearts, but I feel like the way you worded both of those examples, tears at their souls vs touching their hearts. Children never forget. Hi Michelle! Thank you for your thoughts.
- The Oxford Guide to Treaties.
- A Precious Jewel?
- When Your Kids Won’t Bow to Your Idols.
- Closing the Me-You Gap?
- Ellen DykasHarvest USA.
- Walk To Wisdom.
As far as your concerns, I really appreciate you sharing them. There are a million different ways to do that. The examples I gave are never spoken harshly, but with much gentleness, in the context of relationship. Thank you for sharing your hard-earned wisdom with humility and grace. Ya think God was trying to tell me somethin. He brings it all together. I repented, walked outside, and asked for forgiveness from my family for my sins.
It is so hard. I am on a journey, and thank GOD it is toward him. My wife sent me the link to this a few days ago and everyday since she has asked me if I had read it yet. I finally told her today that I would get to it before the day ended. Things are going well!! There have been things in the last couple of months happening in our family that have changed the routine in a big way.
I had to have major hip surgery and was forced to be still for a lengthy period of time. You can only imagine how much of a perfect saint of a sleep deprived and doped painkillers father I was during this. I found what you blogged about very pertinent in my life and my relationships with my boys and wanted to share my eye opened gratitude.
So, Thanks. Nailed it. Why is that these things are so obvious after your kids are almost raised! The heart of Jesus is what we and our kids need. We need to raise character filled kids not ones that we control. Oh my goodness…. I did everything wrong, in attempting to be the good Christian parent, with James Dobson as my guide, in being desperate to have my kids be God-lovers too.
Yes, my husband was there too, but a dysfunctional partnership meant I did the majority of the care, and the bullying, and the anger were my constant companions. Not because of me, despite me. Now in their adulthood, none of my kids are even remotely interested in faith matters, and I bear that burden with great sadness. They remember the no-nonsense household and say it was a good thing delayed gratification, healthy eating, etc , but all those things are temporal…. I missed the eternal mark. I feel I have no credibility with them in these matters.
All I can do is pray that they will one day return to what they once believed as truth. That the Redeemer will redeem them. Oh, my heart hurts for you. I hear the pain, the condemnation.
Too Many Lovers By Paul Taylor
May I suggest you read part 2 to my article? I speak directly to empty-nesters who are filled with regret. Only Him. He redeems the years the locusts have stolen. He makes beauty from ashes. He uses our brokenness, our failures and redeems them for His glory. I hope those truths bring you freedom and encouragement today — as a parent who feels like I majorly blew it with my teen just last night, I need to hear them too. Thank you…. I have read part two, and it will take some time to have the truths become embedded. I have so many other thoughts in my head….
Idolatry & Addiction
Now: when fear becomes the guide for our actions, we should ask whether that fear deserves to be at the center of our attention. Because what resides at the center of our attention starts to shape us. I don't mean it remakes us completely. I mean that what we mentally caress and cherish will affect our ethical decisions. The inward life has outward consequences.
Some fear is prudent. It is prudent not to stand on mountain ridges or under trees during thunderstorms. But if we live in constant fear of lightning, something has gone wrong. So by this definition, we can turn anything or anyone into our personal idol —and we will suffer for it! This study guide was developed to help people find out if idolatry is a bigger problem than you realized. It was put together to help you - and maybe a group of your friends - get real and get honest with each other and with God.
This study guide is packed with information, examples, challenging questions, practical steps, and personal application to move you from bondage into personal healing! Get A Copy.
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We make the idol a false 'god' by giving it our devotion, attention, affection, and resources in exchange for Too Many Lovers: Uncovering the Deception of Idolatry by Paul Taylor is a very highly recommended book that challenges Christians to examine who or what they are truly devoted to and serving.
We make the idol a false 'god' by giving it our devotion, attention, affection, and resources in exchange for what it gives us. Taylor points out that one of the most perilous idols is self-love. The second most dangerous idol What is extremely helpful though is working through the study guide, Too Many Lovers: a Guide to Freedom from Idolatry, along with reading the book.
Too Many Lovers: a Guide to Freedom from Idolatry by Paul Taylor is a very highly recommended study guide that will challenge you weed out the things you may be making into idols in your own life. This study guide to Too Many Lovers is an excellent resource to help small groups identify what idols they may have in their own lives that need to be removed.
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